十五条永不过时的生活智慧

十五条永不过时的生活智慧

The great benefit of livingwith, working for, or being related to people who have experienced more of lifethan you have is picking their brain for advice.

和比你有生活经验的人一起生活、或为之工作、或和他们有联系的最大的益处莫过于可以从他们那里得到建议。

The most effective peoplelearn from their own mistakes, and make a significant effort tolearn from other people's errors as well.

效率高的人会从自己的错误中学习，并努力从别人的错误中学习。

A Quora thread asked usersfor the best advice they've ever gotten.Here are a few of the greatestexcerpts, lightly edited for clarity:

Quora上有一个帖子，问用户得到的最好的建议是什么。其中最好的几条摘录如下，为了清楚起见稍微做了些编辑：

1. Never say "but."

不要说“但是” 。

"A very smart woman Iworked with once told me that if I eliminated the word'but' from my professional vocabulary, I'd findgreater acceptance for my ideas, and greater cooperation from my teammembers... The word 'but' negates everything that precedes it, and you cast anegative spin on anything you say when you use it... 'But' is exclusive andisolating; 'and' is inclusive and welcoming."

“和我一起工作的一位非常聪明的女士曾经告诉我，如果我把?但是?这个词从我的工作用语中去掉，那我的想法被别人接受的概率会更高，我的团队成员间的合作程度也会更好………但是?这个词把它之前的内容都否定了，当你用它的时候，你说的话都蒙上了消极的色彩………但是?是排外的和孤立的；…并且?是包容的、受欢迎的。”

2. You never get anything unless you ask.

除非你去争取，否则你什么也得不到。

"It was a professor inmy university, but I believe its origin is from somebody famous: If you don'task, the answer is always 'no'."

“这句话是从我大学的一个教授那儿听到的，但我觉得这句话是源自一句名言：如果你不去问，那么答案永远是…不?。”

3. Think before you complain.

抱怨之前先思考。

"Don't complain. I thinkit was phrased as something like, 'Do youever listen to someone complaining and think, This is a

greatconversation!?'Being negative doesn'thelpothers, and it doesn't help you."

“不要抱怨。换句话说，“你有没有听别人抱怨，然后想，恩，这次的谈话可真棒！？?消极并不会帮助他人，也不会对你有帮助。”

4. Time is the one thing you never get back.

时间这个东西，你永远不会重新得到。

"A mentor I had someyears ago told me that time is the one thing that you can never get back. Ifyou look at it as an asset,you can donate it, spend it, or waste it.Whateveryou do with it,it is gone once it passes."

“几年之前我的导师告诉我，时间这个东西，你永远也不会重新得到。如果你把它看成是资产，你可以捐出它、花掉它或浪费掉。无论你怎么处理它，只要它过去了，它就再也不见了。”

5. Attitude is more imp0rtant than talent.

态度比天赋要更加重要。

"I have been time andagain repeatedly told that a strong positive attitude takes a man farther thanhis talent. There are many greats in sports, entertainment, politics, science,and art who had great talent but lost on huge counts only because of a faultyand shaky attitude.

“我被反复告诫，和天赋相比，积极的态度能让人走得更远。体育、娱乐、政治、科学和艺术等方面有很多人都富有天赋，但最终却输的很惨，原因就在于他们的态度不够端正。

Attitude helps you solveproblems talent cannot.Attitude helps you navigate through problem talenthides."

态度能帮你解决很多天赋解决不了的问题。态度能帮你在天赋所隐藏的问题中探索。”

6. Quality is always greater than quantity.

质量永远比数量要重要。

"If you're going to dosomething, do it well enough to avoid doing it the second time. Going back todo something the second time is a

time-waster if you knew it can be done rightthe first time.Even writing this post, I'm putting in my best effort into editingit,explaining it, and making it easy and enjoyable to read — to avoid goingback and fixing any grammatical errors."

“如果你要做什么事情，一定一次做好，不要再做第二遍。如果你知道第一次就能做好，那做两遍纯粹是浪费时间。即便是这个帖子，我也是尽力去编辑、去解释，让它易读，且读起来让人心情愉悦——避免再弄一次，去修改其中的语法错误。”

7. Be reliable.

做个可信之人。

"Do what you say you'regoing to do."

“言而有信，说到就要做到。”

8. Do the right thing.

做正确的事情。

"Advice from CharlieMunger (not proffered personally): The safest way to try toget what you want is to try to deserve what youwant."

“从查理-芒格那里得到的建议（不是亲自得到的）：想得到东西的最安全的方式就是努力去让自己理应得到想要的东西。”

9. Slow down.

慢下来。

"When I was in my 20s Iworked as a waiter at a very popular restaurant I found it very difficult tokeep up with the orders and,consequently, my tips were very low.

“当我20多岁时，我在一家非常受欢迎的餐厅当服务员。我发现很难跟得上那些订单，因此，我的小费非常少。”

One of the very experiencedservers took me aside and she said, 'Slow down and take longer steps. You'llfeel more relaxed and your customers will see that and trust you.'

“一位非常有经验的服务员把我拉到一边，告诉我，…慢下来，多走几步。你会更加放松，你的顾客也能够感受到并因而信任你。?”

If you slow down, you havetime to think and plan better. Taking longer steps means more than just how youmove through a space. It's ab0ut looking ahead and covering more ground,encompassing more than just the task at hand." 如果你慢下来，你就有时间思考，并能更好地计划。多走几

步不仅仅是走路。它还包括往前看，多注意一些详细的情况，而不仅仅是手头的任务。”

10. Everyone ends up in the same place.

每个人都会在同一地方结束。

"'At the end of thegame, the king and the pawn go back in the same box.' —Italian Proverb

“在游戏的最后，国王和小兵都会回到同一个盒子里。” ——意大利谚语

When you really think ab0utthis, in the end we all end up the same. You can't take your money and famewith you after you die."

“你仔细想想，到最后其实我们都是一样的。金钱和名誉都是生不带来死不带去的。”

11. Time is not money. It's better.

时间不是金钱。它比金钱更重要。

"Always choose time overmoney. Contrary to what people say, time is not money. Time is much much morethan money. At the end of your life, it's guaranteed you will be out of timeand more than likely out of money as well, if you didn't value time."

“在时间和金钱前，要选择金钱。和人们说的不同，时间不是金钱。时间比金钱要重要的多。在你生命的尽头，你肯定会没时间，如果你不珍惜时间的话，很有可能也没钱。”

12. Don't worry what other people think.

不要担心别人怎么想。

"Stop being soself-conscious because absolutely nobody is paying any attention to you anyway— they are only paying attention to themselves."

“不要那么不自然，因为绝对没人注意你。——他们只会注意自己。”

13. You can't truly control anything but howwell you do things.

你无法真正地去控制任何事情，但你能控制自己如何去做事情。

"To find happiness inlife's tasks, invest in the process (which you can control), not in the outcome(which is largely out of your control)."

“在生活的过程中去寻找幸福，在过程中投资（这样你可以控制），不要在结果上投资（大部分都是无法控制的。）”

14. Listen.

倾听。

"God gave you two earsand one mouth; use them proportionally."

“上天给了你两只耳朵和一张嘴；按比例使用它们。”

15. Take risks when you can.

能冒险时就冒险。

"On deciding whether tostep off my career track in my mid-20s to live abroad for a year: 'You have therest of your life to work. You'll be working for 40 years. I don't know why wewere in such a hurry when we were young.' I took the year off."

“在我20多岁的时候，我要做一个决定，是否放弃职业生涯去国外生活一年：'你的余生都要工作。你要工作40年。我不知道为什么年轻时我们要这么着急'。我选择了出去一年。”