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Seeking Steady Arm to Lean on

【Abstract】Seeking steady arm to lean on is an article which points to the problem of the aged patients in the United States who live alone,and when they are ill,their plight always appears miserable.With the development of society and the traditional family made decomposition,more and more old people marched into the “empty nester”ranks,they rather part of life in the spirit and need to be concerned about,help and comfort for.earnest effort for them to do service work,the p arty and the government’s warm,social care to their hearts,to make “empty nest old man”in the street,community happiness,happy,healthy lives.But it is the only way of the construction of the harmonious community will be easier.

【Key Words】single-person households; empty-nest older;helpful man; aged patients; friends; endowment way; harmonious community

1 Introduction

Jane Gross, the author of article Seeking a Steady Arm to Lean On, is an American journalist. As the title indicates, it points to the problem of the aged patients in the United States who live alone, and when they are ill, their plight always appears miserable.The whole article gives five exa mples to state the increasingly serious phenomenon that the single aged patients are facing.

Grace McCabe,who lived alone with a fading eye sight,has fixed on one with a good heart,a steady hand under pressure and a talent for problem solving,her friend,Charlotte Frank.The author arranged this example at the beginning of the article which led to the thesis that the growing number of American households consisting of one person results from the baby boom years ago naturally.It also clears a view that patients cannot be both in the hospital and be their own quarterback when they discharge from hospital.Then,here comes the problem that who should take responsibility of the single aged patients.

Roberta Van Laven,who has advanced ovarian cancer,does not allow others to accompany her to chemotherapy because she feels it hard to accept help.This proud woman will not permit anyone to sit with her for six hours,though the distraction might be welcome.But it is really that it is just so hard to accept help.Another instant,Barbara R,a 68-year-old former college professor,who was given a diagnosis of breast cancer,seems to be more lucky.She not only has her family dependents,but also calls her own web of relationships for supporting.Barbara’s positive attitude towards disease reminds me of the importance of creating and making good use of communicates of friends.Also,the forth example of Ms.Moran and Ms.Martines impressed me on what a lifetime friendship really means--both friends will tide over the crisis and support mutually.

The final case about Mr.Daykin narrated that although he was taken care of by his friends,he still can not get rid of his greatest fear--to become a burden to anyone,to incur obligation.But finally,he bowed to dependence.The story of Mr.Daykin makes me think of how helpless and weak we will be when we are fighting with the disease.Anyway,we should not immerse ourselves in deep sorrow,we should not be trapped by physical pain,we should not lose heart and courage to fight against the illness.

People living alone are among the most difficult cases.Anyone who is sick or disabled needs

someone to quarterback their care both in the hospital and afterwards,but people who live alone can end up being their own quarterbacks at a particularly vulnerable time.Making the situation worse is the increase in short stays in hospitals,which sometimes send people home before they can manage alone.

2. “Empty nest old people” in China

With the development of society and the traditional family made decomposition,more and more old people marched into the “empty nester”ranks,they rather part of life in the spirit and need to be concerned about,help and comfort for.The research”empty nester”,have very important theoretical and practical significance.The current basic conditions of “empty nest old man” are following:

Hard to go to a doctor when they are sick

“Empty nester”in a “go out a lock,enter the door to a lamp”lonely life at the some time,the need to “three guarantees”,namely:the economic support security and life care for security.Nanjing ordinary old worker monthly pension payments in 1000 multivariate,can only be used for daily expenses,meets the disease can do.“Empty nester”,the elder sick ratio as high as 70%-80%,and many people are more with the disease.According to information Nanjing city “empty nester”medical spending a year on average is 5000 yuan,many people who don’t have health insurance,become financially-difficult or outstanding phenomenon.

All alone and lack of communication

Empty nest feeling also is loneliness,but this kind of loneliness added in thought,self-pity and helpless and so on in the complex emotional experience.The old man has empty nest feeling,most of the depression and melancholy solitude,behavior back down.Many of them are restrained,very few and social interaction.

On the phenomenon of boomerang kids is not optimistic

According to the survey,although “empty nester”children 85% have income,but 70%of the old man can’t get their children’s support or medical treatment fee funding.And because the laid-off workers and their children or grandchildren will purchase school and other reasons,they still have to squeeze out the meager retirement pension,help children take expenses.

Living conditions remained to be improved

Part of the “empty nester”living environment dark wet,the daily health cleaning does not reach the designated positon,daily articles on bed piled up around,make originally narrow space appear narrow disorder,Their old and frail,still have to buy food cooking.For figure convenient save trouble,often cook a meal eat three meals,and some have to save money,line up for food at a discount price.Even some old man is still in use was eliminated coal stove.

Endowment way be restricted

Family endowment is China’s traditional pension mode,in rural still accounts for a major position.The old the essential,the most important is to rely on the care of the children loved ones.With the transition from traditional society to modern society,the old people’s idea and also in decline,they think that rely on social endowment help provide is the future trend of endowment.Although in the endowment concept is influenced by many factors,but low income is to influence the old man endowment options to important factors.

3.How to improve “empty nester”conditions of life?

Care about “empty nester”health

Time for “empty nester”do health check,to grasp “empty nester”health and regularly carry out targeted,guidance health lectures,community service center also can carry out a series of specially designed for the old man to provide free services,such as:free travel card for 120 safety,distributed free health magazine “club health service”.free of healthy diets and food phase table,regular the door teach home health exercises and hand therapy fuck,these services will warmly welcomed by old people.

To explore the way of family endowment

Cons idering most old people living the home’s https://www.360docs.net/doc/c66980785.html,munity service is family endowment-in the community to build a support family endowment socialized service system.That old man scattered living in the home and community service institutions provide nonprofit public services,to solve the old man’s life care,domestic service,spiritual comfort.Based in the community-family endowment as the foundation, the organization for China’s old-age pension is added a feature of model and mainstream endowment patterns.The model that is the core of community service.

Play social forces to care about “empty nester”

At present our country gradually formed “family endowment,community service”of endowment patterns,need to huge social resources to pay.In a sense,the development of family endowment service process,also is the endowment service socialization process,Socialized service should base on the community,encourage social forces in community based endowment service,and gradually form for the old life care,health care,rehabilitation care,domestic service,psychological consultation,culture study,sports fitness and leisure,entertainment and so https://www.360docs.net/doc/c66980785.html,prehensive service network,provides the high quality for the old man that occupy the home and convenient services.

Encourage “empty nester”join in community activities

To implement the in situ,all small,principle,organize broad old people in entertainment,fitness,read the newspaper,watch TV,old university,short trips on various activities especially to encourage and guide “empty nest old man”out of their homes,to indoor and outdoor activities.Establish “empty nester”information network

Establish a social support system is not enough.Each community should master the empty nest old man,put their material including health registered,convenient volunteers to provide timely,personalized service.

4.Conclusion

In short,the construction of socialist harmonious society is the communist party of China on the cause of socialism with Chinese characteristics new development of understanding,also is the ideal of all ages has been seeking people society,and the old people is the important composition of society,especially for the care of the elderly people attended,should be set up an important part of harmonious China. “Empty nest old people”is a unique the old people,according to the old-age work policy,earnest effort for them to do service work,the party and the government’s warm,social care to their hearts,to make “empty nest old man”in the street,community hap piness,happy,healthy lives.But it is the only way of the construction of the harmonious community will be easier.